A Brief Introduction to the INTJ Equation.

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What better day to start writing a blog when you were fired from your job by the same woman you were falling in love with? It may seem like a great hindrance now, but these sorts of things typically happen for a reason. For instance, I now have time to write this blog that I have been planning for the last few weeks. Being a single father of a soon to be three-year-old-boy, I can’t help but worry about how I’m going to feed my growing toddler. No matter what happens, it’s always important to keep in mind that what often seems like failure, is often quite serendipitous in nature.

As I write this blog, I’m going to do a lot of things that INTJ’s just aren’t typically comfortable doing; such as, talking about how I feel. Yes, I just went there, that dreaded “f” word that INTJ’s love to loathe. Don’t worry too much about it, it won’t always be sappy and heartfelt. I’m sure that there are people out there who will cry foul, and state that no INTJ would discuss their feelings, you’re really an INFJ. You see, things aren’t as simple as the MBTI makes them out to be. So for any of my skeptics that may be out there, I have your back too.

INTJs have many pet peeves, but what frustrates me the most is ignorance and misunderstanding. My aspirations are to educate the public on who and what an INTJ really is. Introverted Intuition (Ni) and Extraverted Thinking (Te)  are quite a powerful combination that INTJs have been gifted with. With great strength, comes greater weakness. For instance, INTJ’s struggle with Extroverted Feeling (Fe)Trickster. Fe Trickster inhibits INTJs (and ISTJs) from understanding what is considered socially acceptable. In other words, social interaction can be painfully awkward, and even damaging for INxJs in general. While I understand that it’s not productive to play the victim, and I realize that all the types have their barriers; INTJs are quite rare, with rarity comes misunderstanding and ignorance.

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 There is no doubt that INTJs are one of the most enigmatic of the types, making up around 1% of the population. Some polls, which probably aren’t all that accurate, claim INTJ’s are the second rarest type, following INFJs. To put things into further perspective, around one out of a hundred people that walk this Earth are an INTJ. It’s easy to become angry at society’s misconception of what an INTJ is about, but there is one point that people must realize, especially INTJs. No matter how inhibited an INTJ may be social wise, ignorance is still a two way street.

I’m pretty sure I’m not only speaking for myself here, but as an INTJ, people baffle me. At one point, I was arrogant enough to think I actually understood others, and often dismissed them as stupid. Today, I’m proud to admit I was wrong. I was wrong to quickly label others just because of our differences. I’m proud to admit that I’m a hypocrite for judging others as harshly as I was judged. Despite what others think, I am in fact human, and I do make mistakes. Sadly, many people never grow as human beings, as a result, they become stagnant, never reaching their full potential. At least I am heading in the direction of not being one of those people.

The road to self-actualization is not an easy road to traverse. Forgive me, but I have to touch on that taboo word again, feelings.  A month or so ago (as of today, July 9th, 2019) I felt a sensation that, at the time, I couldn't describe. One of my guilty pleasures is just laying in bed thinking, exploring the vast universe that I created inside my head. As most INTJs know, this can often backfire, leading to the dreaded Ni-Fi Loop (Introverted Intuition. Introverted Feeling.) One fateful night, I was dwelling on my past anguish, but instead of putting myself in the victim role, I realized I have the potential of being a true catalyst of change.

A few months or so ago, before this grand epiphany, I was stuck in analysis paralysis. Desperately, yet lazily, I would spend hours scouring Youtube. Rewatching video after video of the same MBTI based INTJ content. Luckily, I eventually stumbled upon the lectures of C.S. Joseph. Say what you want about C.S. Joseph, I enjoy his videos. Chase has really opened up the world of what Jungian Analytical Psychology is really about, and its potential to reshape the world. That night, I broke the Ni-Fi loop with my Te and pieced together the fact that I can change the world, and pave the way for others like me.

Along with the completion of this 34-year long existential crisis, came  tears. Which was followed by an exhilarating amount of joy, and the - confusion. What was this strange feeling? As any diligent INTJ would do, I researched what the hell was going on, only to be disappointed in the lack of results. Often while stuck in La-La Land, I would think of my realization and break down into tears. Even after speaking with a good INFP Friend, and my therapist, I was still at a lost. One day, it hit me like a ton of bricks. This strange emotion I was experiencing was… passion.

At the time, feeling passion was an odd sensation. If you haven’t discovered and experienced what you’re passionate about, I strongly recommend you do some soul searching. It will transform your life. As I mentioned above, I recently lost my job, and just a few weeks prior, I was demoted. It can be easily mistaken that I may be on a downward spiral, but I don’t see it that way. “When one door closes, another one opens”.

INTJ’s are known as Finishers. Along with the ISTJ, INFJ, and the ISTP; INTJs are the ones to call to get things done. As aforementioned, when there is strength, weakness follows. Being a See-it-Through type, I have trouble starting things. Well, that’s exactly what this blog is, me starting something. I have to start somewhere, why not here? As of a few hours ago, I went from being a single dad working a full time job with very little time, to an unemployed single dad, with ample time. Life gave me lemons, so it’s time to make lemonade.

In the back of my mind, I failed my son. But as I dig deeper, I realize that this is simply a trial that will make me a better father. Like many other people, I used to fear change, but found that change must be embraced. This is what one has to do to develop their Subconscious and Unconscious. With this blog, I plan to share my life, experiences, as well as my opinions. Also, I will explain what I’m learning in Depth Psychology, and how I’m going to apply it  to make this world a better place. It’s important for my readers to know that I am far from being an expert in Jungian Analytical Psychology, but one day, I will be an authority on it. As I said before, this blog is just the beginning for me. Swirling around in this brain are a plethora of ideas.

This may sound a bit selfish seeing as I have Fi Child, but it’s of great importance to sacrifice the time to devote myself to my studies and mission. From this blog, I see endless possibilities. Podcasts, a Youtube channel, forums, you name it. Overall, I would like to build this into an online community, and eventually write books. From there, I would like to develop a system that takes young kids like you and I, and guides them through our turbulent lives; allowing these youth to unlock their full potential. I may only be speaking for myself here, but in several ways, I envy the more common types. Wouldn’t it have been nice to have had someone who can relate being so different? Someone to help you face this strange world we know as Western Society? In my mind, it’s just a possibility waiting to happen. By unlocking the potential of others, I can change the world for the better.